How to cope with loss
Scream cry
Ugly cry
Soft cry
Contemplate the universe
Have an existential crisis
Be prepared for crappy people
Be prepared for supportive people
Feel all your feelings
Just know that guilt will somehow find it's way in there
Also, misplaced anger will also finds it's way
Stay in your bed/house for as long as you need to
Do things that make you forget until you remember
Find excuses to laugh and reminiscence about the person you lost
Nap
Tell your family that "you're always there for them" and that "they're never alone if they want to talk", while hinting that you need them to please please return the favor
Social media in my case should be avoided because it just hurts too much. To see everyone so happy and carrying on with they're day while you're suffering a tremendous loss made me feel more alone.
Check if everyone else (that's going through it) is okay
Forgive yourself for the reasonable and unreasonable guilt you hold.
Nap
Make a memory box of photos and notes and memorabilia about your loved one
Hold back from smacking people that complain about every minuscule meaningless little thing
Try to believe that they're in a better place
Nevermind, I'm still angry this happened in the first place
Promise to be better to and for each other
Be thankful for good health (without guilt)
Meditate on how everything in your body is functioning for your good
Journal every single day till you feel like you don't need it anymore
Take it one day at a time, matter of fact, take it an hour at a time
Tell your boss, professor and those depending on you, what's truly going on. Your feelings, current circumstances and mental health are valid.
Book an appointment with your councilor
Try to do one thing that will help you get back to your regular schedule
Have Ibuprofen on hand, always
Know that there's not a proper way to deal with grief
Time and what you do with that time helps heal, apparently
Know that the goal isn't to get over it or deny it, it's to fully accept the loss and come to a place of gratitude, grace, peace, forgiveness and understanding.
Get a dog (a 2 year old husky/German shepherd mix) named Piper
Hate everyone
Love everyone
Take another nap